Proactive reasons to seek couples counseling

Ever wonder if it is too soon to seek couples counseling? Maybe there are some things you’d like to change or little problems that bother you but don’t seem like a big deal. You might think your relationship problems aren’t bad enough that couples therapy is needed.

As a couples therapist, I often hear stories about how coming to couples therapy is a last ditch effort to save a relationship or marriage. So many people wait to get the help they need for their relationship but WHAT IF it didn’t have to be that way? 

Couples that come to therapy proactively often reach their goals faster because we get the opportunity to address concerns sooner than later (when resentment can build up). This is a key skill for securely functioning relationships and many couples need help learning how to navigate conversations around expressing desires, needs and expectations within their relationship.

We offer in-person couples therapy in Murrieta, CA and in Riverside, CA as well as online couples counseling to all residents of California.

Next we’ll talk about why you might seek out therapy proactively or to prevent little conflicts from becoming big ones.

Any kind of change or transition

If you are anticipating change or have noticed a shift in the relationship it can be helpful to seek couples therapy. 

Coming to couples therapy when there has been any kind of event that has caused a shift in the dynamic of your relationship or roles can be helpful to navigate the transition and address possible challenges or concerns. 

Common changes in a relationship are often MILESTONE moments like: 

• Moving in together/moving to a new home

• Getting a new job

• Joining finances

• Getting married 

• Having kids

• Raising kids at different developmental stages; newborns, going to school, adolescence, etc.

• Empty nesting

• Losing a loved one

• Triggering times of the year (holidays, trauma anniversaries)

• Anticipating deployment 

• Learning of a new diagnosis

• Feeling stagnant, complacent and wanting a more mature/deeper connection in the relationship 

These milestone moments can be times of extra stress or distraction and can contribute to relationship neglect. They are also times when our roles and responsibilities change. And any kind of change can place additional strain on relationships. If you find your relationship in the middle of a milestone moment or are anticipating a shift in the near future, please feel free to contact us for some extra support! 

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We offer online couples counseling in California and in-person marriage counseling services in Riverside, CA and in-person marriage therapy in Murrieta, CA!! It’s so important for you to find the right marriage counselor for you. Learn more about what’s unique about our couples therapists here.