Addiction Recovery and Couples Therapy in Riverside CA

How can couples begin the process of addiction recovery together with couples therapy in Riverside CA?

You might be wondering whether you should get help for the addiction first or get help for your relationship if your relationship problems seem to be fueling the addiction. These questions are really tricky and the answer can sometimes vary from one situation to the next. When we actually get a chance to sit down together and understand the specifics of your situation, one of our couples therapists in Riverside CA will be able to help you come up with a plan that’s specific to your situation. But what we do know that applies to any situation, is that you can’t do addiction recovery alone. And that you can’t fix your relationship problems alone either. You and your partner have to do it together.

“Together” is a key word for recovery and management of addictions. In the world of addictions treatment, it is common to hear the phrase “connection is the opposite of addiction” and its used often because connection with other safe, caring and secure people is a common theme in everything from A.A., Al anon, CODA and SMART recovery, REFUGE recovery, traditional talk therapy and on and on.

Our partners are often a major part of the support structure leveraged for recovery and couples that are willing to support each other are an incredibly powerful lever to pull. Couples can begin the process of recovery together by facing their fears of judgment and criticism and making the leap to acknowledge the problem and reach out to professionals that focus on these things. Our couples therapist in Riverside CA understand addiction recovery AND couples therapy. We know how to help you. You wouldn’t replace your own car’s engine if you don’t understand how cars work, would you? No, you take it to a professional and get the help you need. 

Do your homework to get the right couples therapist in Riverside CA to help you with addiction recovery

Now you're asking, “Who is best suited to deal with something like this”? Great question. Resources are going to be your best friend and most, if not all, mental health professionals have resources, even if they don’t specialize in addiction recovery. My most simple advice is to just do something, and start asking questions. Call therapists and ask questions, call hospitals and ask questions, make it known you are looking for support for addiction recovery and start the process, it is our professional ethical obligation as mental health providers to get you the help you need, even if it isn’t us you start treatment with.

At Inland Empire Couples Counseling we have therapists who understand couple relationships AND have worked or currently work in addiction treatment. We understand how complicated it can be when addiction hurts your relationship, when efforts at recovery seem to be taking time away from your partner, and when the problems in your relationship cause cravings or relapses.

Learn as much as you can about addiction and recovery

The next step is to learn as much as you can about addictions, recovery and your individual role in the problem patterns as well as the solutions to those patterns. Often, there are couple relationships that are made up of someone suffering from addiction and a partner who is doing their best to hold everything together. This creates vastly different perspectives about what the problem is, what the solutions might look like and different understandings about addiction and relationships themselves.

Many couples are acutely aware of the impacts the addiction has on their relationship, but come to therapy to address the symptoms the addiction has on the relationship. They tend to accidentally minimize the severity of the addiction's role in the relationship issues and attempt to work on the relationship while actively ignoring the addiction. Couples therapy during active addiction and recovery will also look different than couples therapy without, and may require simultaneous treatment specifically addressing the addiction. 

If you can break through the fear or anxiety of admitting that something, anything, finally needs to be done about substance use or abuse, you have taken the hardest step in recovery. Openly admitting or addressing the issue with a partner is the catalyst and puts you on a path to doing something about it. If you, a partner or a loved one in your life is struggling, getting curious and reach out to us. We would love to talk to you. If we can’t help you, we will find someone who can. Partners may have their own work to do in this type of crisis, but it is highly unlikely to recover from these things alone. That key word “together” cannot be understated.     

Let us help you out of this mess together. Click the button below to schedule a consultation with one of our therapists.

Quality marriage counseling in Riverside CA, Temecula CA, online couples counseling in California, and couples retreats in California

At Inland Empire Couples Counseling we offer the best marriage counseling we can! Our couples therapists are trained in helping couples heal from infidelity, substance use in relationships, childhood trauma, communication skills, as well as providing the LGBTQIA+ community with pride counseling. We have online couples counseling in California. We have couples therapy in Riverside, CA. We also have marriage counseling in Murrieta CA or the Temecula Valley. For a deeper experience focused on rejuvenation and reconnection, consider booking one of our couples retreats in California. Please reach out for help by clicking the button below to schedule a free 15 minute consultation with our Intake Coordinator.

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